Are you sick of hearing about self-care yet? Well I am! As a Self-love Activist + Coach, I find it exhausting seeing people post + share about self-care who have no idea of what they are talking about. Christine Arylo, the founder of the Path of Self-love has created a school that teaches the truth about self-care.
Self-care is intentionally giving your mind, body, and soul what it needs every day.
Self-care is not always about doing things that make you feel good (if you have not read my article, Your Self-care is Bullshit, please check it out).
Enough! Enough! Enough! of the bullshit self-care people. It’s time to embrace the reality that self-love is not always about rainbows and glitter; it’s real heart work that we have to choose to do every day. This is what self-care is:
- things you have to do but don’t necessarily always want to do
- can be difficult at times
- without it you would not be well (mental health, physical health, emotional health)
- is mental/psychological, physical, spiritual, emotional, and social
Self-love is “a path, a practice, and a choice,” and when prioritizing self-care, it’s important to not only do those things that we enjoy doing but to embrace its depth and ditch the bullshit. According to Chrstine Arylo, here are the 5 most important things to know about self-care:
1. It is better to give AND receive
Put yourself on your list of to do’s. We all have priorities, and you should be one of them. Christine is constantly reminding us that self-love does not exclude the individuals you care for, but it does require you to add yourself to that list. Be a giver and a receiver of care; someone who takes care of themselves just as much as they do others.
2. You are worth taking good care of
You are not selfish for taking care of yourself! You are not selfish for taking care of yourself! You are not selfish for taking care of yourself! You are not selfish for taking care of yourself! You are not selfish for taking care of yourself! You are not selfish for taking care of yourself! You are not selfish for taking care of yourself! You are not selfish for taking care of yourself!
3. The better you take care of yourself the more you can give to who and what you love
The quote, “you can’t pour from an empty cup,” is not a joke. That is some real life shit that you have to embrace and understand throughout this journey. Burn out is real, toxic stress is real, and so is high blood pressure and heart disease. Make sure your cup is full.
4. You can only give from a space of love
We all have the ability to take care of someone or something, but the quality of care that we are able to provide, if not rooted in love, can be toxic in itself. We cannot practice self-care without the other branches of self-love (If you would like to learn more about the 10 Branches of Self-love, please check out A Simple Guide to Self-love and More to Self-love Than Self-care).
There is no self-care without self-love.
In order to take care of you, you need to accept yourself, be compassionate with yourself, forgive yourself, trust yourself, express yourself, and honor all that you are and all that you are not.
5. Resting is doing something
Grind. Hustle. Slay. Work. We are always going, going, going. Being booked and busy is a blessing but so is the ability to rest. Rest does not always mean sleep but is just enough peace and stillness to sustain us throughout life. As someone who has a inner-mean-girl who is a perfectionist and is afraid of rejection + failure, I struggle to make myself sit still and do NOTHING. I remember being restless as a kid and now I have to practice this essential form of self-care because it does not come naturally to me.
Force yourself to sit your ass down. Turn off the television, turn off the music, turn off your damn phone, and sit still for 15 minutes a day if you can. Find the inner-peace, give yourself space, reflect, and listen to your inner-wisdom. There is so much Heart Work that happens when we rest.
If you or someone you know is in need of self-care in its truest form and is sick of the surface + commercial crap, learn more about No Bullshit Self-love, a 12 session program that is rooted in Christine Arylo’s Foundations of Self-love certification + training program. I am here for your heart.